Attention Ladies: There are now companies set up specifically to consult and train side chicks on how to be a good side chick...targeting married men
The urban definition of a side chick goes as followed: the other woman; also known as the mistress; a female that is neither a male's wife or girlfriend who has relations with the male while he is in another relationship
I was listening to the Rickey Smiley show and they had a company called SC (side chicks) where they offer consultations with women who are side chicks. What struck a nerve with me is that they target married men instead of someone looking for the same things as them. They justified the situation with the fact that men come to them and that they don't want to be in a serious relationship. They just want to have fun.
What's sad is they had no remorse for the fact that they destroy families. One of the owners of this company even got pregnant with the married guys baby and still to this day don't believe anything was wrong with it.
As a woman, I'm greatly offended because at some point they are going to want to settle down and they will expect to have a man/husband who is loyal.
What I heard really peaked my interest, so I did some research and what I found would surprise you. There are a host of companies that offer services like this.
Ladies they give them rules to being a perfect side chick (below).
What I really want to know is being a side chick a new form of prostitution with perks?Give him space. Don’t always be the first to text him or seek him out. Give him breathing room. He doesn't want to have more than one wife/girlfriend/significant other. He already has one of those, and your job is to be something different. You have to be fun, and not get all up in his space. You have a right to do your own thing just as much as he has a right to do his. Go out with your girlfriends. Have a good time. Don't worry about checking in with him every five minutes or he'll start to think you want something more Keep things interesting. When he texts you, keep the conversation interesting. A side chick's main responsibility is to keep things fun and exciting. Giving him short answers and acting uninterested will make him wish he was playing Words with Friends instead -- or even just hanging out with his Main. Tell him funny stories; ask how he's feeling; surprise him. Do whatever you've gotta do to keep things exciting, as long as it feels natural. Refrain from having “The Talk”. Having the "What are we doing? Where is this going?" talk will push him away. You have to know your lane. You’re his side chick; the end. Yeah, some side chicks do end up as mains, but this is much more rare than you may think. If your thing is all about hooking up, then there's no need to overwhelm your guy with serious conversation. This will lead you to a time out. Go with the flow. There should never be a reason to get into a disagreement with him. That is the Main's responsibility. A side chick should always be cool and should never be one who stresses him out. You are his vacation, his time off, his break from problems with the Main. If you start bickering, criticizing him, or complaining about everything you do together, he'll start to wonder why he got with you in the first place. Don't ask questions. This should be a no brainer. You can’t ask "Where were you," "Why didn’t you call me," "Why are you always so busy," "Why don’t you ever see me," "Who were you on the phone with," etc., if you expect to keep the relationship going. These are not side chick questions. You got yourself into this situation, and there's no point in acting jealous or surprised when you already knew the score getting into it. Don't try to spend holidays or birthdays with the guy. If he cares enough, he might celebrate these events with you the day after or before, but for the most part, don’t expect anything like a gift or acknowledgment. These days are saved and reserved for the Mains, and it may be safe to text him to wish him a happy New Year/Christmas/birthday, but a phone call should not be made. And as for Valentine's Day, you can pretty much bet that he'll be spending it with his main. Let him get in touch with you first. He's the one having the affair, so unfortunately, he has to call the shots. If he wants to get in touch with you, he'll send you a text or he'll call you. If you try to call or text him, then you could be putting him in an awkward situation because he may be with his main. This is especially true at night; don't try to call or text him late at night, or his Main may see your phone message and things could get ugly. Always look your best. As a side chick, always be on point. You're not his girlfriend, and shouldn't be hanging out with him in sneakers and sweats. If you want to find a guy you can get comfortable with, then you can look for a boyfriend. The fact of the matter is that the guy will expect you to look your best if you're his side chick. Nobody said it was an easy job. Let him think he’s the only one. You don’t want him to think you get down like this, even if you do. You're already a side chick; you don’t want him to think you’re seeing other guys, too. But if you are seeing other guys, then so what? You have every right to do what you want; he didn't put a ring on your finger, did he?
- Keep your Facebook clean. Don't let him see lots of pictures of you with a bunch of other guys
- If you start bringing up the Main to the guy, or asking questions about her, he won't want to continue the conversation.