Mom’s Fighting Back Against Bullying. Right or Wrong?

This is a subject I beg to hear back from you on.  I found a recent rash of stories, where Mothers are being arrested and charged for confronting their children's bullies.   Has bullying gone so far without any remedies, that now Mother's are taking matters into their own hands?  How do you feel?  Right or Wrong? 

Mom Arrested For Alleged Assault On Daughter's Bully At Calif. Elementary School

SANTA ROSA, Calif. (AP) — A Northern California woman is facing charges that she grabbed a 12-year-old boy by the throat while confronting him about bullying her daughter, authorities said Sunday. Delia Garcia-Bratcher, 30, of Santa Rosa came to an elementary school around lunchtime Friday and asked her son, who also attends the school, to point out her daughter's alleged tormentor, the Sonoma County Sheriff's office said in a statement. The mother grabbed the boy by the throat in front of a number of children, the statement said.
Delia Garcia Bratcher
Delia Garcia Bratcher
No adult saw the confrontation, and Garcia-Bratcher apparently had not checked in with the school office before coming on campus, authorities said. The young witnesses later told a deputy the mother threatened the boy about bullying her daughter. The staff at Olivet Charter Elementary School took photos of red marks on the boy's neck as soon as they learned about the alleged assault, authorities said. Garcia-Bratcher was arrested on a charge of felony child abuse. She was released from jail after posting a $30,000 bail. A telephone number for a Delia Bratcher was disconnected. But on a Facebook page that said it belonged to Bratcher, she posted that she was hurt by the accusation and asserted that "the truth will be told." Lt. Mark Essick told the Santa Rosa Press-Democrat that deputies were looking into the bullying claims but have not substantiated them.

Mother arrested breaking up son's fight posts video on Facebook

COOKEVILLE, Tenn. - A Cookeville mother arrested while trying to break up a fight involving her son posted a video of the altercation on Facebook. Leisa Carlile said the fight was a result of bullying and she put the video on social media to send a message to parents to protect their children.
Leisa Carlile posted a video of her son in a fight at a Cookeville park.
Leisa Carlile posted a video of her son in a fight at a Cookeville park.
“I feel like I was the only parent who tried to step in. I didn't know what my legal rights were to protect my son,” she told News 2. The incident occurred Tuesday night at Dogwood Park. The video shows several teenagers punching and kicking a 15-year-old boy. It also shows Carlile pacing back and forth. She said she did not physically touch any of the attackers because they were juveniles, but she did throw dirt in their faces and used the N-word in anger. “I think they related to that language a little bit better than the English I was speaking to them originally when the fight was about to start. I told them my son is not going to fight you. He was not going to touch you,” Carlile explained. She said the boys had been bullying her son for some time and one of the youngsters had taken a phone battery from her 15-year-old son the night before. Carlile believed the fight was in retaliation of her filing a police report over the stolen battery. However, the teen’s father, Greg Scott, thinks his ex-wife led to the animosity. He said his son and the teens were playing with no issues prior to her arrival. “I was called because my son was beat up. I get down here; I’m told my ex-wife has instigated this. She escalated this and put my son in harm's way is exactly what happened. I didn't want it on Facebook,” he stated. Carlile rejected that accusation, saying, “I think I did everything I thought I could legally do. I have had teachers and people on Facebook commend me. Not all parents have done that when they’re kids have been bullied. People have to step up. One mom can’t defend herself against four bullies alone.” Cookeville police said the witnesses’ statements were conflicting, so all parties were arrested for disorderly conduct, including Carlile and her son.

Florida Mom Arrested After Beating Up 12-Year Old To Stop Bullying

  I first read about fighting fire with fire in an old Tin-Tin comic I had borrowed from the library in the hopes that I would one day be interested in adventure (no. It's the napping life for me). In the comic, Tin Tin sets some grass on fire to put out another fire that is coming towards him and his merry band of misfits. After the fire is put out, it is revealed that the whole thing was a metaphor for fighting might with might and never backing down. Whatever, that dog was hella cute. A Florida mom must have read the same comic and taken it seriously when she decided to stop some bullying that was going on against her daughter by hauling off and punching a 12-year-old that was allegedly doing the bullying. Because if there's one surefire way to show children that they shouldn't pick on those smaller and weaker than them it's by hitting them. You know just to show what some real damage can do. The mom in question, Irisdaly Rios, is defending her actions by pointing out that the 12-year-old she fought, Ashley Perez, has been a harsh bully who was a danger to Rios' daughter. But even if that's true (and let's be real, middle-schoolers are the MEANEST bunch and NO ONE should be messing with your kid), there is absolutely no excuse for a) hitting a child, and b) leaving that child with a chipped tooth, a bruised head, and scratches on her neck. What the actual fuck, lady? Control yourself and use your words, not your fists. (And make sure those words aren't just "AAAAAAAAH, I AM GOING TO KILL YOU!") You know you're not adulting that good when the child in the situation sounds like more of a responsible adult. Here's what Perez had to say about how a fight between two sixth-graders turned into a fight between a woman and a child. "That's why I walked to the car, because usually, if it was another mother, she'll be like, 'Oh, what's happening to my daughter. Let's fix this up,'" Perez told NBC Miami. "She got aggressive, and I think she felt her daughter was in danger." Mom3 The fight, which was caught on video, has led to Rios' arrest. She now faces a battery charge. Her daughter faces a lifetime of embarrassment because you know this video will never go away. Mom Charged with Beating Up Daughter's Bully Police say the fight was caught on videotape. The mom denies ever hitting the 11-year-old girl.   A Philadelphia mom was arrested inside her daughter's school after police say she assaulted an 11-year-old student. Attifa Brown says she was upset her daughter was being bullied at school, but denies ever hitting the child.
Philadelphia mother is charged with assaulting an 11-year-old girl inside an elementary school. That mom tells NBC10 she was upset her daughter was being bullied. NBC10's Luann Cahn is live outside A.B. Anderson Elementary School in Cobbs Creek with reaction from both sides
Philadelphia mother is charged with assaulting an 11-year-old girl inside an elementary school. That mom tells NBC10 she was upset her daughter was being bullied. NBC10's Luann Cahn is live outside A.B. Anderson Elementary School in Cobbs Creek with reaction from both sides

"I don't beat my own child, let alone somebody else's," said Brown.

Police say there is a videotape of the incident that happened yesterday around 10:00 a.m. inside A.B. Anderson Elementary School in Cobbs Creek.

"The problem here is that we have a 26-year-old mother who has no reason to approach an 11-year-old child, so her credibility as far as I'm concerned is shot," said Lt. John Walker, Philadelphia Police.

Investigators say Brown went to the school with her daughter to confront the 11-year-old girl, accused of bullying her child.

"The tape showed this lady over my daughter for minutes, poking her in the face, pulling her hair and beating her," said Bobby Webster, mother of the 11-year-old victim.

Webster says her daughter is not a bully.

"I thought I taught her to actually defend herself and take care of herself," said Brown, who added that at the end of the day, "I'm human."

School officials are investigating how Brown was able to walk into the school without signing in or without being questioned.

Brown is facing a long list of charges, including terroristic threats, simple assault, recklessly endangering another person and defiant trespass.

 

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